Yeah, this is an straight forward question How to ask an unknown girl for friendship?
There is a girl in the society where i am residing from the last two years, i came across her first time in a shared auto rickshaw.During my initial days when i joined my first job i used to commute with shared auto rickshaw up to my office.An shared auto rickshaw runs on a pre-defined route carrying 12 persons at a time including driver.
I came across her again and again,some times in between 12 persons,some times in between 5 persons and one time there were just I and her,two eyes became four eyes but still i didn't asked for friendship. I thought how should i proceed, why a person will accept an friendship offer from an unknown person with out having any information about him or her.But am i unknown to her? I guess yes and no,Yes , because she don't know anything about me and No, because she also knows that we came across many times.This part made me feel that i should at least ask her for friendship,but i didn't asked her.I don't know why? I am still searching the answer of this question.
Soon i upgraded from shared auto rickshaw to bike and start commuting on ma bike.Due to this i was not coming across her in any means but she was still commuting through shared auto rickshaw.One day i came to know that she used to work in some company which is very near to mine as i saw her one day at a road side food eatery near that area where i used to go for some tea or snacks.I was not aware about her company name as there are lots of BPOs and Technological firms but may be she knows where i work.
She must have seen the strap of my access card on which my company name is printed.Still i ask my self,should i ask her? but what i will say if she asked me why i want to do friendship with her?no answers till date but i want to ask her......
One year went and i was not aware whether she is still in the same society or she left.Some time back i saw her again and saw that she is residing just a block away but at that time i didn't have time as i was going very busy in the office and having an schedule of 10 am to 11 pm due to project deadlines and deliveries.Soon i forgot all these things and i almost forgot about her.
The new year came and from the new month of new year i started visiting Hanuman temple located in my society on every Tuesday so that i can pray to god at least once in a week. I saw her at the temple and she saw me,again two eyes became four eyes.I got an sigh,oh...she is still in this society.I heard an internal sound saying some thing to me but i was getting two sounds one in left ear and one right ear, exactly as like films,one side my devil was saying and other side my angel
Angel: "go and ask her you dumbo"
Devil:"no man, this is a temple,don't make any fuss here"
Angel:"C'mon, this is a good chance"
Devil:"What if she refused?"
Angel:"C'mon,don't bother about result,at least ask her.Don't you remember the saying karm kar aur phal ki chinta mat kar"
Devil:"What if she asked the reason"
Angel:"Say anything but go and ask first,may be she will not ask anything"
My head and eyes were swinging between two and when i looked around she vanished from temple.I saw she was going ahead,just a few meters ahead.I didn't followed her and was standing there.I looked at the time so that i can again catch her at the temple,may be next coming tuesday.
Next tuesday arrived but at the noted time she didn't showed up.I said myself,next tuesday.
Still i am confused should i ask her or not?What reason i will provide if she asked me the reason for friendship?why a person will accept an friendship proposal from an unknown person?
Whether to ask an Unknown Girl for Friendship or not.
Any help?
Tuesday, March 3, 2009
Time = Money
We always heard people saying that "Time is also money and we should give value to time,its very important".But how many of us have realized the importance of time in terms of money?
I realized this thing when i came across one of the watchman in my company.
One fine morning i reached to parking lot owned by my organization, i parked my bike,told my name and my employee id to Watchman named Jeevan Singh (so that he can update Time in and Time out in his record book) and boarded the parking shuttle to office.This is an every day process and there is nothing new about it.On that same evening when i was leaving office around 9 pm i came across Jeevan Singh at security kiosk,he greeted me and checked me before leaving office premises (well ,in our organization there is a general process of checking individual during their entry and exist in which he/she get scanned through metal detectors by security in order to ensure that we are not carrying any magnetic media,pen drives,cds or any such medium on which any information can be recorded).When he did all security measures he said "Goodnight Sir!!" and got busy checking others.
When i was in parking shuttle, i was thinking that this man was on duty since morning and still he is here at 9 pm.I assumed he had duty hours of 12 hours and he will be leaving on.
Next morning when i went to parking lot, my eyes were searching for him and i was not able to see him.I thought may be he will come late to duty as he was there at office up to late hours.I reached office gate and got surprised when i saw him at the same security kiosk.He said "Good Morning Sir!!" i was so curious that instead of saying him Good Morning in reply i asked him
me:Jeevan Singh,How come you are here as you were in the night also.Did you came so early in the morning ?
JS:Sir, i am here from the last night and i didn't went off from the duty.
me:Why so?why you are doing continuous duty?
JS:Sir, i will do duty of 36 hours so that i can get my overtime payment as i need to go home and i require money.
me:But how can you do a continuous 36 hour long duty without catching any sleep?
JS:Sir, this is my job and i am habitual to it, i did 36 hour duty before.
me:but......
JS:Sir, you guys got 8 hours of working hours but still you were leaving office yesterday at 9 pm i.e. after 12 hours of duty.If you can extend 4 hours more than why i can't.
me:hmm...
i didn't uttered a single word and went ahead,swapped my access card,opened the door and went in towards my work bench.
That day i realized how time is related to money.In fact we software guys got billed from US based clients on the basis of no of hours we spent in the office for their work and our organization got payment from US based client according to following formula:-
payment = no of hours spent in a day x 5 working days x 5or 4 weeks
Here also we are earning according to the no of hours we are spending in the office doing work for others.
An software professional spend 10 - 12 hours (although 8 hours are normal office timings) in his small cubicle by only sitting and working on a computer in Air cooled environment while an Watchman spend his 10-12 hours in long and big areas by only standing all the time.But both are earning according to the time he spent on his duty.
If you really want to know the relation between time and money than go ask MD or Finance VP of any software firm.
I realized this thing when i came across one of the watchman in my company.
One fine morning i reached to parking lot owned by my organization, i parked my bike,told my name and my employee id to Watchman named Jeevan Singh (so that he can update Time in and Time out in his record book) and boarded the parking shuttle to office.This is an every day process and there is nothing new about it.On that same evening when i was leaving office around 9 pm i came across Jeevan Singh at security kiosk,he greeted me and checked me before leaving office premises (well ,in our organization there is a general process of checking individual during their entry and exist in which he/she get scanned through metal detectors by security in order to ensure that we are not carrying any magnetic media,pen drives,cds or any such medium on which any information can be recorded).When he did all security measures he said "Goodnight Sir!!" and got busy checking others.
When i was in parking shuttle, i was thinking that this man was on duty since morning and still he is here at 9 pm.I assumed he had duty hours of 12 hours and he will be leaving on.
Next morning when i went to parking lot, my eyes were searching for him and i was not able to see him.I thought may be he will come late to duty as he was there at office up to late hours.I reached office gate and got surprised when i saw him at the same security kiosk.He said "Good Morning Sir!!" i was so curious that instead of saying him Good Morning in reply i asked him
me:Jeevan Singh,How come you are here as you were in the night also.Did you came so early in the morning ?
JS:Sir, i am here from the last night and i didn't went off from the duty.
me:Why so?why you are doing continuous duty?
JS:Sir, i will do duty of 36 hours so that i can get my overtime payment as i need to go home and i require money.
me:But how can you do a continuous 36 hour long duty without catching any sleep?
JS:Sir, this is my job and i am habitual to it, i did 36 hour duty before.
me:but......
JS:Sir, you guys got 8 hours of working hours but still you were leaving office yesterday at 9 pm i.e. after 12 hours of duty.If you can extend 4 hours more than why i can't.
me:hmm...
i didn't uttered a single word and went ahead,swapped my access card,opened the door and went in towards my work bench.
That day i realized how time is related to money.In fact we software guys got billed from US based clients on the basis of no of hours we spent in the office for their work and our organization got payment from US based client according to following formula:-
payment = no of hours spent in a day x 5 working days x 5or 4 weeks
Here also we are earning according to the no of hours we are spending in the office doing work for others.
An software professional spend 10 - 12 hours (although 8 hours are normal office timings) in his small cubicle by only sitting and working on a computer in Air cooled environment while an Watchman spend his 10-12 hours in long and big areas by only standing all the time.But both are earning according to the time he spent on his duty.
If you really want to know the relation between time and money than go ask MD or Finance VP of any software firm.
Monday, February 16, 2009
Dad Is Always Right...
Yes,Dads are always right.Some times we feel that our Dad is out of fashion,don't know about latest technologies, we have an generation gap,he don't understand todays open youth culture.
Some times Dad gives lots of explaination and cautionary tips before we do some thing for ex: if you have to buy a new thing than your dad will give you lots of tips for that product to ensure that we get a good thing.He values money and his main concern is if we are spending money on some thing than that thing should worth it and we just think "what dad, why can't you stop examining pros and cons of each and every thing,why can't you just buy me that damn thing or why can't you let me buy that thing".Our eyes are so deeply catched with that particular thing that we forgot the fact that our own dad is right and we should do the things according to him.
But at some point we realize that ya,Dad was right.I am the one who has not followed him.
I also went through this and I have a one example when I realized that.
Some time around July 2005, my family and one more family went to Panvel (Mumbai) as my dad and his friend has some official meeting there so they took all of us to there so that we can meet other family friends and have a nice time.One fine evening we all decided to go Vashi (Navi Mumbai) for dinner and for some shopping there.Instead of going through our own cars we decided to go by local train so that we can save time, we reached Panvel local station,parked our four wheelers and my dad bought 12 tickets.I asked my dad to give me my ticket and conversation was
me:Dad, give me my ticket.
Dad:Why, I am keeping all of them with me, why do you need that.
me: (in a joking mood) In case you left than I don't want to face Ticket checker without a ticket.
Dad:Okay,here is yours but remember I am you dad.
I kept that ticket in upper left pocket and we all boarded the train,whole family was inside and I was standing at the local train gate for getting more air (as I was not new in Mumbai and all those who have been to Mumbai can understand) and the atmosphere was also very fine as cold winds were flowing.As the local train reached at the banks of sea, wind flow increased and suddenly my whole shirt get filled with air.Due to that heavy wind flow, my ticket in pocket got flowed outside my pocket and I was just watching this as a dumb.I was not able to beleive on my eyes.
I was thinking what should I do now, tell my father.....na,he will scold me in front of all.What should I do..... I just went silently and sat inside with my family and I was pretending as nothing was happened and regained the false smile on my face.I decided not to tell anybody about this untill i get caught by TC because if I get caught than there is no other option left for me and if I not then I don't need to tell anybody.
As we reached Vashi station and walking out of station, I spotted a Ticket checker was standing out there and checking tickets.I tried to hide myself in between the mob and my family but some how TC camed towards me leaving all the passenger around me and asked me for the ticket.I thought, now I get caught and I have to tell them all the story.I was searching the ticket in pockets to show him that I have it but I am not getting it.By seeing my enacts my father camed and gave him the tickets which were 11 in number.TC looked at them, he asked whether the tickets are 12 or not.My father ensured him that they are 12 in numbers.TC didn't bothered to count them and started asking other people to show tickets.
My Dad saved me that day and he said quitely "I am your Dad".I knew what he tried to describe by those four words, I just said "Yes Dad you are".
Above incident made me believe that Dads are always Right ;o)
Some times Dad gives lots of explaination and cautionary tips before we do some thing for ex: if you have to buy a new thing than your dad will give you lots of tips for that product to ensure that we get a good thing.He values money and his main concern is if we are spending money on some thing than that thing should worth it and we just think "what dad, why can't you stop examining pros and cons of each and every thing,why can't you just buy me that damn thing or why can't you let me buy that thing".Our eyes are so deeply catched with that particular thing that we forgot the fact that our own dad is right and we should do the things according to him.
But at some point we realize that ya,Dad was right.I am the one who has not followed him.
I also went through this and I have a one example when I realized that.
Some time around July 2005, my family and one more family went to Panvel (Mumbai) as my dad and his friend has some official meeting there so they took all of us to there so that we can meet other family friends and have a nice time.One fine evening we all decided to go Vashi (Navi Mumbai) for dinner and for some shopping there.Instead of going through our own cars we decided to go by local train so that we can save time, we reached Panvel local station,parked our four wheelers and my dad bought 12 tickets.I asked my dad to give me my ticket and conversation was
me:Dad, give me my ticket.
Dad:Why, I am keeping all of them with me, why do you need that.
me: (in a joking mood) In case you left than I don't want to face Ticket checker without a ticket.
Dad:Okay,here is yours but remember I am you dad.
I kept that ticket in upper left pocket and we all boarded the train,whole family was inside and I was standing at the local train gate for getting more air (as I was not new in Mumbai and all those who have been to Mumbai can understand) and the atmosphere was also very fine as cold winds were flowing.As the local train reached at the banks of sea, wind flow increased and suddenly my whole shirt get filled with air.Due to that heavy wind flow, my ticket in pocket got flowed outside my pocket and I was just watching this as a dumb.I was not able to beleive on my eyes.
I was thinking what should I do now, tell my father.....na,he will scold me in front of all.What should I do..... I just went silently and sat inside with my family and I was pretending as nothing was happened and regained the false smile on my face.I decided not to tell anybody about this untill i get caught by TC because if I get caught than there is no other option left for me and if I not then I don't need to tell anybody.
As we reached Vashi station and walking out of station, I spotted a Ticket checker was standing out there and checking tickets.I tried to hide myself in between the mob and my family but some how TC camed towards me leaving all the passenger around me and asked me for the ticket.I thought, now I get caught and I have to tell them all the story.I was searching the ticket in pockets to show him that I have it but I am not getting it.By seeing my enacts my father camed and gave him the tickets which were 11 in number.TC looked at them, he asked whether the tickets are 12 or not.My father ensured him that they are 12 in numbers.TC didn't bothered to count them and started asking other people to show tickets.
My Dad saved me that day and he said quitely "I am your Dad".I knew what he tried to describe by those four words, I just said "Yes Dad you are".
Above incident made me believe that Dads are always Right ;o)
Friday, February 13, 2009
When Nature Paints in Shimla
Sun Rays coming down deplicting clouds.
Sun set.
Indian Railways Stack Bridge.
Green Valley,Kufri.
Great Himalayas.
Great Himalayas covered with Snow
Please, Don't hit with that Snow. 
Snow,clouds covering Himalayas
Shimla During Sunset.
Wednesday, February 11, 2009
A Dream Which Will Never Get Fullfilled
We all used to see dreams when we go to bed and generally dreams are related to activities which we did on that particular whole day.But some dreams or some actions are repetitive i.e. some thing which always comes in dreams either on a regular basis or at random basis.But there is some thing which get associated to you in a virtual world from years,some thing which is not possible in real world.
One such thing which i see in my dreams more often is the ability to fly.I can fly in dreams and i can come down safely whenever i want.I just need to stretch my both hands with palms towards the sky keeping my eyes closed,just like as we do during meditation and then started rising above the ground.I saw this activity many times in different situations in my dreams,some time i wonder that do i really have a power to fly like that.
This dream is associated with me from past 10 years (as far as i remember), I am seeing this dream from the time when television programs like Shaktimaan or movies like Matrix were not launched.
I heard that every dream has its meaning, there are also lots of websites which interprets dreams but i never bothered to see the meaning of this dream.
That's why i titled this as "A Dream Which Will Never Get Fullfilled" in real life.
Belated New Year Greetings
As we have already entered in New Year 2009, I wish all a very happy,prosperous,rocking New Year 2009.
May the alimighty bless us and give us enough strength to accomplish our goals and dreams.May the god showers happiness on us.
I know these wishes are quite late but greetings are greetings and still we are in New Year :)
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